Sometimes coaching clients come to me knowing exactly what it is that they need support with: maybe they are not happy in their careers, so they’re looking to get really clear on what they would love to do; perhaps they are wanting to work on their self-confidence; or to find the motivation to make a big and lasting change in their lives; sometimes help is needed to navigate a big life change that is already happening to them such as redundancy, bereavement or the end of a relationship.
Often, however, it just isn’t this straightforward.
So many people who come to me feel stuck, anxious and just not really happy with how things are going in their lives, but they are not sure where to start, and it can feel a bit overwhelming trying to get your head around all the things you might want to change.
So where do you start?
First things first – we need to rate how you feel about all the different areas of your life right now, so that we can discover where the biggest opportunities are to bring more fulfillment into your life.
Now, if I were to ask you: ‘how is your entire life going right now?’ that’s a pretty massive question, right? So we break it down into the manageable chunks listed below, which means you can then rate how you feel about each area on a scale of 1-10 where one is not very good, and ten is the best it could ever be.
Now that you’ve rated them, if there were just one area you would address first, what would that be? It might not even be the lowest rated one, but you will probably have a gut feel or a ‘pull’ towards a particular area that you know you would really like to address.
Once you’ve chosen the area where you’d like some change to happen, ask yourself the following questions:
What would a 9 or 10 be like for you in this area, based on your current situation?
What is it that is missing / happening / not happening in this area of your life right now that causes it to be a lower score at the moment?
What would be happening in your life for it to become a 9 or a 10?
What is the one small step you could take this week to bring you closer to making it a 9 or 10?
You can click on the values exercise below to access the full exercise: